January 3, 2023 by Marjorie R. Rogers, MA (English), Certified Consultant
Harassment by a co-parent can take many forms. It can be anything from making demeaning comments about the other parent in front of the child, to sending threatening text messages or emails. It can also include trying to sabotage custody arrangements or visitation schedules.
In some cases, it may even involve physical violence. Any behavior that is intended to scare, intimidate, or control the other parent can be considered harassment.
If you’re a co-parent, you know that communication and cooperation are key to making things work. But what happens when one parent starts crossing the line into harassment?
Unfortunately, harassment by a co-parent is all too common.
And it can take many forms. It might be constant texting or calling, showing up unannounced, making demands that are unreasonable, or even threatening or verbally abusive behavior. If you’re being harassed by your co-parent, it’s important to take action.
First, try to resolve the issue directly with the other parent if possible. If that doesn’t work, or if the harassment is severe, you may need to get law enforcement involved or seek a restraining order. No one deserves to be harassed by their co-parent.
If you’re dealing with this issue, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
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It is a common misconception that if you do not co-parent with the other parent of your child, you will lose custody. This is simply not true. While a court may consider whether or not you are able to co-parent when making decisions about custody, it is not a requirement.
There are many families who have successful arrangements where the parents do not co-parent and the children still thrive. If you are having difficulty co-parenting with the other parent of your child, it is important to seek out help from a professional. There are many resources available to help families learn how to effectively communicate and cooperate with one another for the sake of their children.
With some effort and guidance, it is possible to overcome obstacles and develop a workable arrangement that works best for everyone involved.
What is Parental Harassment?
Parental harassment is a form of bullying that can occur in families. It can take many different forms, such as name-calling, making fun of someone, belittling them or their accomplishments, telling hurtful lies about them, spreading rumors, or excluding them from activities. Parental harassment can also involve physical abuse.
This type of behavior is often aimed at children by adults who are supposed to be taking care of them, such as parents, guardians, or other relatives. It can be extremely damaging to the child’s self-esteem and sense of worth. In some cases, it can even lead to depression or anxiety.
If you think you may be experiencing parental harassment, it’s important to reach out for help. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what’s going on. You can also contact a counselor or therapist who can provide support and guidance.
Remember that you are not alone and there is help available.
What is Inappropriate Co-Parenting?
Inappropriate co-parenting is when one parent tries to control or manipulate the other parent in order to gain an advantage in child custody or visitation arrangements. This can take many forms, such as:
1. Refusing to communicate with the other parent.
2. Withholding information about the child from the other parent. 3. Making false accusations against the other parent in an attempt to get them into trouble. 4. Refusing to compromise or cooperate on parenting decisions.
5. Trying to turn the child against the other parent. 6 Using visitation as a way to harass or intimidate the other parent instead of spending time with the child Inappropriate co-parenting can have a negative effect on children, who may feel caught in the middle of their parents’ conflict.
How Can I Stop My Co-Parent from Harassing Me?
If you are the victim of co-parenting harassment, there are a few things you can do to try and stop it. First, document everything that is happening. Keep a log of all the times your co-parent harasses you, what they say or do, and how it makes you feel.
This documentation will be important if you decide to take legal action. Next, try to communicate with your co-parent directly about their behavior and how it is affecting you. If possible, have this conversation in person so that there is no miscommunication.
If your co-parent refuses to listen or stops communicating with you altogether, then consider speaking with a mediator or lawyer to help resolve the issue. If the harassment persists despite your efforts to stop it, then you may need to take legal action. You can file for a restraining order or contact the police if necessary.
Remember that you are not alone and there are resources available to help you deal with this difficult situation.
How Do You Deal With a Manipulative Co-Parent?
It can be difficult to deal with a manipulative co-parent. They may try to control or manipulate the situation in order to get what they want. It is important to remember that you are an equal parent and have a right to make decisions about your child’s life.
Do not let a manipulative co-parent take away your power. There are some things you can do to deal with a manipulative co-parent: 1. Communicate directly with the other parent, rather than through attorneys or other intermediaries.
This will help reduce the chances of miscommunication and allow you to more easily express your needs and concerns. 2. Keep communication lines open, even if it is difficult. Try to avoid arguing, as this will only escalate the situation.
Instead, calmly state your position and listen to the other parent’s point of view. 3. Seek outside support if necessary, such as from a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate this difficult situation. 4. Put your child’s best interests first at all times.
It’s no secret that co-parenting can be difficult. After all, you’re trying to raise a child with someone you may not even like, let alone love. But just because co-parenting is hard doesn’t mean it gives either parent the right to harass the other.
Unfortunately, harassment by a co-parent is all too common. So what exactly constitutes harassment by a co-parent? Here are some examples:
• Refusing to communicate or cooperate with the other parent. This includes things like refusing to answer phone calls or emails, or deliberately missing scheduled hand-offs. • Making false accusations against the other parent.
For example, claiming that the other parent is neglectful or abusive when there is no evidence to support such claims. • Deliberately interfering with the other parent’s time with their child. This could include showing up late for pick-ups/drop-offs, cancelling plans at the last minute, or preventing the other parent from attending important events in their child’s life (e.g., school plays).
• Using children as pawns in an effort to hurt or manipulate the other parent. This might involve saying negative things about the other parent to their child, making false promises about spending time together that are never kept, or using visitation as a way to keep tabs on and control the other parent’s whereabouts and activities.
About Author (Marjorie R. Rogers)
The inspiring mum of 6 who dedicates her time to supporting others. While battling with her own demons she continues to be the voice for others unable to speak out. Mental illness almost destroyed her, yet here she is fighting back and teaching you all the things she has learned along the way. Get Started To Read …